Do you ever hear your kids say “I’m stupid”or “I’m good at Maths but can’t do English”? When faced with challenges do they give up before they try? Are they scared of failure?
Believing you have a certain amount of intelligence or ability for something is called a FIXED MINDSET.
The problem with having a fixed mindset is that when faced with a challenge or something that is harder to achieve than you thought it would be, you decide that you just weren’t as good or as talented as you had first thought.
Rather than put in the extra effort required to achieve, your confidence goes and you give up easily. Your self esteem takes a hit, you start to avoid challenges and can have all sorts of negative self talk going on in your head about being a failure. And what does failure mean – you are not smart enough or talented enough.
Having a GROWTH MINDSET – The understanding that you can develop your abilities and intelligence – gives you the belief that you can get smarter and that effort makes you stronger.
Knowing that you can achieve anything through hard work, determination and practise will lead you to focus more on learning, learn from your mistakes and give you the determination not to give up.
We are born with a natural growth mindset. We don’t see babies learning to walk give up after they have fallen over 100 times. What they are doing is building the muscles in their legs, so they have the strength and the building the muscle that is their brain, so they can remember how to put one foot in front of the other. Over time our mindset can change, we start to see patterns evolve and limiting beliefs enter into the mix. Failing (without understanding that it’s a natural part of learning) can lead to the belief that you are not as smart or capable. Praise can also have a huge impact on our children’s mindset. Praising high intelligence/ high ability can cause a fixed mindset whereas praising effort instead of ability can help create a growth mindset.
Within the Growth Mindset section your kids will learn about the differences between a Growth and a Fixed Mindset.They will understand some of the science behind how their brains work. Understanding that through effort they can rewire their brain to make sure they keep practicing for growth. Sections cover The Nueroplasticity of the brain, Praise, Goal Setting, Persistence, The Power of Yet and Making Friends with Failure.
Positive Psychology is the scientific study of what makes life most worth living. It is a scientific approach to studying human thoughts, feelings, and behaviour, with a focus on strengths instead of weakness, what goes right in the world, what causes people to be happy, and building on the good in life instead of just repairing the bad.
Self perception really starts to kick in around the age of 7 or 8 and this is when negative thoughts and patterns in the brain start to develop. Having strong self-belief and postive perceptions is key to ensuring a happy healthy mind in the future.
Negative forces are three times more powerful than positive ones, so it actually takes work to develop strong positive neural pathways in the brain.
In order to rewire the brain to focus on the positive rather than the negative they must dump the excuses and the blame game, alongside making happiness, well-being, self love and self care a priority.
In My Great Big Positive Life- The Superstar Edition we focus on the science behind Positive Psychology and how it teaches the vital importance of feeling worthy, deserving and believing in oneself.
We demonstrate that, just like with Growth Mindset they can rewire their brain to have a positive outlook. That laughing can help them learn and that being in a positive state gives them a 31% advantage to learn more successfully, faster, and more intelligently.
We cover The Road to Resilience, emotions, how they can develop their emotional intelligence and become the boss of their brain.
We provide strategies to help cope with anxiety, stress, anger and fear. Giving them the strength to face their fears head on and the understanding of what happens when they don’t.
Other topics such as It’s Good to Talk, Stay True to Who You Are, The Culture of Comparison, You Are What You Say You Are, Negative Self Talk, Negative Influences, and Other Peoples Opinions of You Are None of Your Business cover all the main principles of Positive Psychology giving practical skills and strategies to help develop a strong mindset going forward.
Finishing of with My Great Big Life Questions where they are encouraged to dig deep to help them understand who they are, who they want to be and what kind of life they want to lead.
You would think that over the years with incredible inventions such as the internet, overall better living standards, more access to money and more things to buy, people would have grown much happier and more satisfied with their lives.
In fact, the opposite seems to be true, life has got so busy, so noisy, and so full of things, that people are losing themselves in their possessions, constantly craving more and more, and so caught up in the fast moving, ever changing world, they are actually losing sight of what makes them truly happy and are not only becoming dissatisfied with their lives, in many cases they are burning out
We all want to be happy right? We all want to be successful in life, we all want to have lovely things. But unless you take the time to appreciate all that is around you, all the money, success, and possessions in the world just won’t make you happy.
Keeping healthy and in mind and body and filling your soul with all the things you love to do and that keep you fulfilled, will allow you to put all the knowledge you have gained throughout your journal into practise and let you experience all the joys the world has to offer.
Being able to clear your mind, live in the moment, slow down a bit and appreciate all the great things around you is imperative if you truly want to lead a great big positive life.
The last section of the journal is focused on the importance of self care and how taking care of themselves, they can live everyday in a clearer, focussed, more positive way.
Sections cover The sound of silence, positive daily Intentions, mindfulness, mindful breathing, meditation, mindful eating, how to be a human being not just a human doing, staying active, sleeping well, understanding the pro’s and con’s of living in a technical world, and letting your soul sing and your heart be full of joy.